Why Veterans and First Responders

Need You

Many service members experience difficulties finding help. It can be hard to find an accessible, reliable, and trusted environment without significant barriers. Some of these barriers may include fear of being diagnosed/labeled and a concern that therapists/clinicians may not have the context to understand their world and experiences. Many tend to not reach out for help until life becomes really difficult, “the wheels start to come off,” and they have no other option.

Individually service members may struggle most with finding the camaraderie and deep connection with others they experienced during hardships in the military due to training, long separations, austere environments, deployments, and direct combat. Moving to another unit, getting out of the military, medical retirement, or retirement are just a few events that my disrupt this sense of team, belonging, purpose, and reliability. Feeling isolated, alone, and misunderstood seems to be a breeding ground for many struggles

In their marriages, service members may struggle most with balancing an approach that works well in the military with an approach that works well in their marriage. The military does a great job training service members to approach their duties with a logical, unemotional, and deeply practical mindset. This is extremely effective in accomplishing their military mission. However, this approach does not work well in their marriages. Military spouses may find themselves approaching life the same way due to the need to keep life moving by themselves during long separations due to training and deployments. They often act as single parents. The struggle comes in trying to shift from a logical, unemotional, and practical mindset that is critical to life in the military to being able to experience a meaningful and connected marriage.

You can absolutely be a help to these soldiers and veterans. If you need a consultation for a specific case, or you want ongoing supervision to help you offer the best care possible, reach out.

© 2020 Dr. Greg Cheney, LMFT 

Valiant Couples Therapy and Consulting, PLLC

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The views presented are those of the author and do not necessarily represent the views of the United States Army, the Department of Defense, or its components.